Alright men, time to talk about the topic we all struggle with... Dating. Some say I'm not the person to be giving advice on dating. They're probably right. But I'm not talking about having (or wanting) a girlfriend here. This is about how to avoid looking look like a complete moron on a date. It's actually about how to make yourself look like you know what the hell you're doing.
The first step is scoring the date. Everyone has that one girl that you just would do anything in the world to impress. So go talk to her. Some may say going up to a complete stranger and just talking to them is one of the hardest and most awkward things any guy can do. There's a quote from the movie We Bought a Zoo when Matt Damon's character says "sometimes all you need is 20 seconds of insane courage. Just literally 20 seconds of just embarrassing bravery. And I promise you, something great will come of it." I mean yeah that's really cheesy and IT'S A FREAKIN MOVIE but it's a great freakin movie. And that's a great quote. So go talk to her, introduce yourself, tell her you like her puffy sleeves, anything. It's worth it.
Once you get her number and wait a few days, reach out to her. Normally I would say calling her would be the best thing to do but girls keep getting simpler and simpler and would probably think you're weird and hit ignore so try sending her a text message. Figure out a time when you're available and give her the low down. Women don't like making decisions. They like a man who will be aggressive and get the job done. Tell her where you're going (so they can dress accordingly), what you're doing and when you will be picking her up. Don't even think about not picking her up. I've found a solid first date is to take her to a nice restaurant for dinner or lunch for something a little less formal.
After you've shaved your face, gotten a shower and put on something halfway decent, make sure you pick her up on time. When you get to her place, don't honk or text her telling her you're outside. Walk to her door and get her. We all open the door to the restaurant for her right? Well here's the big one fellas. Open the door to the car for her. I can't tell you how many girls have told me that I'm the first guy that's ever done that for them. I find that really pretty sad because that used to be commonplace in society. Women notice the little things.
When you get in the car, turn off The Birthday Song by 2 Chainz and put on something soft and easy to listen to like Mumford & Sons or Of Monsters and Men. Ask her what she likes to listen to and if you have it, put it on to gain some brownie points.
When you get to the restaurant, be nice to whoever is waiting on you. Of course you're going to be nice to her, but she'll judge you on how you treat people that you're not trying to impress. Stand up if she ever leaves the table. That's another old fashion act of chivalry that they'll notice and appreciate.
The last point of emphasis, which should already be an absolute given anyways, but pay for the meal. The quickest way to not get a second date is making her take out her credit card. Don't be embarrassing.
My final words for how to act on a date is to just be a gentleman. If you don't know what the hell you're doing, at least you can act like it.
But what do I know?
Ryan
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